A Simple "OK":

**[A free little exercise routine surprise at the end]***

A simple "OK" is better than an arguement. "OK" doesn't always mean "yes" or "no."  Sometimes, "OK" is just acknowledging that you've gotten the message. Yes, I know "OK" has other meanings, am just focusing on preventing unnecessary arguments right now. For example, if your boss calls you and reminds you about a policy or something, your saying "OK" means you've heard him. It's not the time to start  an argument defending yourself or trying to prove you don't need to be reminded. Same thing happens in relationships. Your partner may say, "please remember to call me when you arrive." A simple reply of "OK" is great. But if you start saying things like, "I know that already" or "why must you remind me of that?" or you just get angry, then your interpersonal-communication skills needs work. And it may also mean you are stressed or you have a lot on your mind or some other unresolved inner conflicts. You may need to see a Counselor, Therapist, or someone who can help you improve on your communication skills.  ...So today, do this simple exercise:  go to a place free of bad fumes or odor, take a deep breath and breathe out every thing clogging your system and do this about 3times or till you feel relief, then continue your day. Write to me and tell me how this exercise made you feel. Have a stress-free Friday. Stay hopeful.
- Martha I. Iyen
(Counsellor & Therapist)
Iro's Consulting & Counselling Services

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